When you look at the reality of things winning and losing at poker maybe important in the time frame of a game, but in life it is about as important as watching a fly landing on a leaf of a tree – interesting but not something that will change the world for the better or worst.

With this attitude when you are faced with a friend dying it makes you want to do a number of things. One is trying to make them fell better. How you try to do that is down to your mentality. some try jokes, some try sympathy in the end it is whatever gets you through the night is what really works.

The second is to avoid the person in question. There is nothing more awkward than trying to have a conversation without mentioning the elephant in the room ie your friends up and coming untimely death. Again, sometimes it works and sometimes it dosen’t. 

After the buzz of resolving a problem and getting onto the right foot for a change I was high on adrenaline like a kite with nitro-glycerine for fuel. Then I got the news that a friend of mine has 6 months to live! Guess what I did, I ran away. Scared of saying the wrong things and scared of breaking down and looking weak when you’re supposed to be strong.

A dying friend is the worst of all scenarios. There not family but they are close to being more than family if that makes sense. You want to be the best friend in the world but you end up as a klutz never saying or doing the right thing and maybe never speaking the truth just in case it makes it worst for them. Death is a horrible thing to deal with.

What I am going to do with a dying friend? Well I will pray for a start because at these times it feels right that if something can be done then hopefully the supreme being that I always say probably dosen’t exist has a chance to prove me wrong. 

Here is my hope to those that face this problem and maybe we can get lucky and fill in that inside straight.

Snow Patrol – Chasing Cars